Simple Advice to Overcome a Bruised Ego

Posted by Laurinda Jones | May 25, 2010 | Criticism, Ego, Problem Solving

Lama Zopa Rinpoche once said that when one’s ego is harmed, one should rejoice. The stronger the harm to the ego, the more quickly one destroys the ego.  I do recall an incident where my ego was badly bruised and believe me, at the time there was no rejoicing. I did however learn a valuable lesson from this …

I was working in a job where part of my role included writing the monthly newsletter. At times I found it to be very tedious, especially when I did not have anything to write about. But one particular month was different. I was very proud of what I had created and confidently showed it to my boss for proof reading and approval. I did not get the nod. I was asked to change quite a few things and yes, my ego was bruised. No matter how many times I went outside to feel the wind on my skin and try to Let Go, my sense of failure remained and I arrived home feeling rather frustrated.

Pacing up and down on the lawn outside, trying to regain my normal happy composure, I walked past a small heap of sand which I had not seen before. Under normal circumstances I would have taken the time to investigate it, but that day I had other problems to solve.

When I realised that the pacing did not help, I sat down to try and relax. That did not work either. My muscles were aching (no doubt from all the tension), so I decided to lie down flat on my back to stretch and relax. Not feeling much relief, I rolled over onto my stomach and rested my head on my hands. Right in front of me was the little heap of sand. From my new perspective, I could see that it was an ants’ nest and I was rather surprised that I could not see it from my previous perspective.

In that moment I knew that Mother Nature presented me with another pearl of wisdom: I needed to be willing to change my perspective and look at things from a different angle, and yes, even from my boss’s point of view.

Simple Advice to Overcome a Bruised Ego:

If you ever suffer from a bruised ego, rejoice! Instead of becoming defensive, try to look at the situation from multiple perspectives: you may be surprised by what you discover.

Laurinda Jones, EzineArticles Diamond Author
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Laurinda Jones

Laurinda has been active in the teaching industry for over 18 years and thrives on supporting others in reaching their full potential. Her journey as a motivational teacher began as an Early Childhood Teacher where she studied the intricacies of human development. This interest later broadened to working with adults in numerous roles which required her to mentor, train and support adults undertaking studies in child development and those running their own businesses as Family Day Care Educators. Laurinda further developed her mentoring and coaching skills when she obtained qualifications as a Clinical Hypnotherapist, Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) Practitioner and Counsellor. Laurinda holds a B.A. Degree in Early Childhood Teaching, a Diploma in Children’s Services, a Certificate IV in Training and Assessment, a Certificate of Clinical Hypnosis, a Certificate in Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP), a Diploma in Religious Studies and a Diploma in Counselling. In February 2017, Laurinda launched her Life Coaching business, The Focus Point, based out of the Gold Coast, Australia. Laurinda has a passion for mentoring and coaching and a desire to impact people’s lives in a meaningful way that benefits their local and broader community. Laurinda is a strong advocate for reconnecting people to nature.

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